I’ve met a few arrogant direct sellers recently and although I’ve heard many great things about them, I was quite disappointed with their attitudes and behavior. I was no longer impressed by what they have done or achievements they’ve made. Their arrogance ruined any good first impression I had of them.
Yes, they have a big organization/team, have been around for quite a long time, and make tons of money for themselves as well as the parent company they represent. Does that give them the right to act like they are better than everyone else? Does that person have to treat others with disrespect? When things don’t go their way, is it right for them to complain and make verbal threats to the parent company in hopes to receive apologetic gifts. No matter how successful a Direct Sales leader becomes, being arrogant won’t make them a great leader, and it definitely won’t help their team’s morale.
What I find sad is those who are within the same organization as the arrogant leader won’t ever say a word or do anything to help improve the situation. They are usually too afraid, too sensitive, or possibly too arrogant themselves. They might complain to another team member or even complain to the parent company, but there will most likely be no change to the situation. The arrogant leader will continue behaving like a know it all and like they are better than the rest of us. They will continue to want things done their way because they believe it is the best way. They won’t listen to other’s ideas. They will always take all the credit when things go well. They will ramble on and on about how great they are, how successful they’ve become, how many good things they’ve done for the company, and more. I can go on and on myself, but my post might end up being a little long to read.
What should you do if you are the unlucky person to have such a leader?
Each situation is different, so it would be hard for me to pin point the right solution for all scenarios.
- Make your own rules: Stop following their rules unless doing so will jeopardize your business.
- Say “NO” to threats: If they tell you “Do it my way or else…” Ignore it. There is not a thing they can do legally to harm you or your business. Only the parent company can give you those ultimatums.
- Don’t be intimidated: Some direct sellers don’t know how to handle people who are overly arrogant or who display aggressive behavior. You might be afraid to do things your own way so you continue to follow them, even if you don’t agree with their technique. All I can say is, “CHANGE THAT!” Don’t let that arrogant leader make you think that your fresh or different ideas is the wrong way. Their way doesn’t mean it is the best way, even if they think so.
- Demand respect: If you are leading a team as well, it won’t look good to them if they see that you are a push over. If your leader is talking down to you, especially in front of others, I’d let him or her know that. Excuse yourself from the discussion and let the leader know that you will not continue unless she can talk to you nicely.
- Work on your confidence: Sometimes we just don’t have enough confidence in ourselves, which is why some succeed, while others fail. Tell yourself everyday, “YOU ARE AMAZING,” “YOU ARE SMART,” AND “YOU WILL SUCCEED.” Don’t expect those words to come from others, because chances are, if they do, they might not be genuine. You are a unique individual and only you know what you can do and what you can’t. Don’t let anyone or anything be an obstacle. A confident leader will build and lead a confident team. A not so confident leader will continue to follow the arrogant one.
- Say good things: It is so easy to vent to others when your arrogant leader pisses you off. Why not attempt to say good things about them instead. Obviously don’t say too many good things because it can blow up their head even more if the word got back to them.
- Help others: Others in your team might feel like you do and don’t know how to handle the situations they’ve encountered with the arrogant leader you share. If you overcame your obstacles, then try to help others overcome theirs.
- Tell them: Letting a person know that they need to get off their high horse is not always easy. Get the team involved and it might work out better. See it as an intervention. Sometimes a leader is so focused on patting themselves on the back for the awesomeness they believe they portray, they forget to realize there are others out there who are awesome too. Thanking the arrogant leader for all the good things they have to offer and for leading the team is a good way to start. Then ask them if they wouldn’t mind letting others in the team take charge so that they might have a chance to shine as well.
- Reduce your time with them: Technically, you DON’T need them in order to run your business. You are in business for yourself and that is where your focus should be. You might have to attend team meetings from time to time if you want to be in the loop of what’s going on, but it is NOT critical. If you have good team mates who are kind enough to share information, then that is all you need. If your arrogant leader is bringing you down, think of ways to keep them far away from you as you possibly can. The arrogant leader still needs YOU and the team if they want to remain a leader. They might need reminding of that too.
I know many direct sellers met an arrogant leader at one point or another and not everyone has an easy time working with one. How would you deal with an arrogant leader?